What does home mean to you as an LGBTQ+ migrant?

We asked this question to Jade J., an immigrant and member/volunteer with one of our partner organizations, The Queer Detainee Empowerment Project (QDEP). Below is an excerpt of the powerful response. We encourage you to read Jade’s full narrative on QDEP’s website.


“For our LGBTQ+ community, the question ‘‘what does home mean to you?’’ has lots of different answers: for some, it’s a different country, for others, their chosen family and partners, for some others it is yet to be found as we discover ourselves. For me, home is wherever I feel safe and have my family around.  

I want to be back with those people that go out of their way to make me happy in ways they don’t even realize. Those that share jokes just because they always want to. I want things to be simple, I want to be remembered, not just an afterthought. I want to be able to express joy in a way my body can feel it and makes sense to me. I want to share who I am without being afraid of the repercussions, I want to ask others how they’re doing, without it being snooping or intrusive. I want words to have the same meaning for all of us. I want someone to tell me “somos familia” and feel the warmth peace brings when you know you can count on someone, no matter what happens. I want to believe and trust when people say “we’re friends!” And know that I can help and protect my friends. I want to make silly mistakes that don’t feel like I must be punished. I want to say “story” instead of “history” without feeling that I have to do damage control. I want to hug my little sister and feel how much she has grown, and that she knows how much I love her. I want to cook for my family without feeling afraid to dance while I do it, I want to give mom my phone and know she will play “the good music”. I want to share with my family the experiences I have had in this new world that surrounds me, that I can be excited about things they’ll understand. That we can be thankful about the same things. I just want to feel I’m still normal, that I’m not just a puppet performing for a show…

A lot has happened this year for all of us. There’s no denying that. 

But as migrants, seeing our family restores balance. It reminds us who we are and why we are here, why this – despite all the hardships – is still the right choice. We remember that, even in a land like this one, both full and empty, we have the best of both worlds. For migrants, being with family represents loosening the strings the puppet has to walk with on a daily basis, be worry free and just enjoy a moment that stays with us forever. To heal. We are thankful for every opportunity, and once we recharge that “amor de casa,” the fog lifts, and we are happy. The sun shines just for us, even through the rain and snow, six feet apart.

Read Jade’s full narrative of what “home” means as an LGBTQ+ migrant on QDEP’s website. It is powerful and important. >

The Queer Detainee Empowerment Project (QDEP) is a post-release support, detention center visitation, direct service, and community organizing project that works with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Queer, Two Spirit, Trans, Intersex, Gender Non- Conforming, and HIV+ (LGBTQIA* GNC TS) immigrant prisoners and their families currently in detention centers, those that have been recently released from detention centers, and those at risk at entering immigration detention in the Tri-State Area (Connecticut, New Jersey, New York) 

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We collaborate with a network of global non-governmental organization (NGO) partners who work directly with refugees and migrants to identify and verify individuals who are financially unable to afford air travel. Once our partners submit flight requests, we use donated frequent flyer miles, credit card points, travel vouchers, and cash to eliminate transportation barriers for the most vulnerable individuals affected by war, persecution, or climate disaster. Our goal is to help these individuals reunite with their loved ones and start a new life in a safe environment.

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– According to the United Nations, there are currently 108 million individuals forcibly displaced from their homes worldwide.  

– The Universal Declaration of Human Rights states that seeking asylum is a fundamental human right. Everyone has the right to life and liberty. Everyone has the right to freedom from fear. Everyone has the right to seek asylum from persecution.

As migration is often the last option for survival, migrants may embark on clandestine journeys, subject to danger, extortion, and inhumane conditions

Once they finally get legal approval for resettlement, migrants face another challenge that makes the journey seem impossible: the transportation costs.

There are many ways for you to get involved and help us continue our work:

You can donate cash to help us cover operational expenses or contribute your unused air miles, credit card points, or travel vouchers to help us book flights for refugees and asylum seekers. Additionally, you can help us spread the word about our cause and our impact on the lives of those we serve.

Every donation, no matter how big or small, has the power to make a difference. Thank you for considering supporting our mission.

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